Jo Carr-West comments on schooling disagreements between UHNW families in Tatler

Jo’s comments were published in Tatler, 12 September 2023, and can be seen here.

Jo Carr-West, Partner in our Family & Relationship department, offers insight into the often-overlooked complexities surrounding educational disagreements in ultra-high-net-worth (UHNW) families, particularly where parents are separated.

She explains that disputes frequently arise during pivotal educational transitions, such as the move from primary to secondary school, when parents hold differing views on what environment will best support their child’s development. One parent may favour a school with a strong academic reputation, while the other may prioritise a more holistic or creative approach. These disagreements can also reflect deeper cultural or religious values, with preferences for international or faith-based schools sometimes becoming symbolic of broader identity issues.

Jo notes that in high-conflict separations, school choice can become a battleground for asserting influence over a child’s cultural or personal alignment. She emphasises the importance of exploring alternative dispute resolution methods, such as mediation, family therapy, or involving educational counsellors, which can help parents reach consensus while keeping the child’s best interests at the centre. These approaches can also involve the child in the decision-making process, where appropriate, helping to ensure that their voice is heard.

The article also features commentary from other legal experts who echo Jo’s concerns and stress the importance of understanding legal responsibilities. Both parents with parental responsibility must agree on major decisions like schooling, and unilateral decisions can lead to legal challenges.

While court intervention is possible through specific issue or prohibited steps orders, it is often a lengthy and stressful process. Legal advice, even on a one-off basis, is recommended to clarify options and timelines. Ultimately, the consensus among professionals is clear: early planning, open communication, and a child-focused approach are key to resolving educational disputes constructively.

Read the full article on the Tatler website [external link].